My husband has a way of projecting his wants and needs as being our wants and needs.
Last week, he was complaining about how chilly it was in the basement. I asked him if he had turned the thermostat up? He told me he would do without the heat and just put on a sweater. He did not want our energy costs to go too high. I paid the energy b[lls. He did not think how much every one of us spent on our yearly energy costs. So when he tried to tell me that keeping the heat off downstairs meant every one of us would be more comfortable upstairs. I asked if it was for our comfort or his? He spit and sputtered and told me that, of course, it was for our comfort. My husband will not turn the heat on in the basement because he feels care about he is wasting energy. In the long run, all he was doing was making himself sick and when he came to bed shivering, every one of us would have to turn the thermostat up in the study room. I did not think how to explain to him that by keeping his basement labor room heated; he was saving heat upstairs. The gas furnace wasn’t running nearly as much at night when he had the heat on in the basement because that room was directly under our study room. The ambient heat from the gas furnace running in his workroom was helping to heat our study room. At one point it would’ve been him trying to explain this thought to me, however as much as I dislike to admit it, at his age he needs to be reminded.