My husband has a way of projecting his wants and needs as being our wants and needs.
Last week, he was complaining about how cold it was in the basement.
I asked him if he had turned the thermostat up? He told me he would do without the heat and just put on a jacket. He didn’t want our energy costs to go too high. I paid the energy b[lls. He did not know how much we spent on our monthly energy bills. So when he tried to tell me that keeping the heat off downstairs meant we would be more comfortable upstairs. I asked if it was for our comfort or his? He spit and sputtered and told me that, of course, it was for our comfort. My husband will not turn the heat on in the basement because he feels like he is wasting energy. In the long run, all he was doing was making himself sick and when he came to bed shivering, we would have to turn the thermostat up in the bedroom. I didn’t know how to explain to him that by keeping his basement work room heated; he was saving heat upstairs. The furnace wasn’t running nearly as much at night when he had the heat on in the basement because that room was directly under our bedroom. The ambient heat from the furnace running in his workroom was helping to heat our bedroom. At one point it would’ve been him trying to explain this thought to me, but as much as I hate to admit it, at his age he needs to be reminded.